{"id":30828,"date":"2024-04-08T15:52:35","date_gmt":"2024-04-08T15:52:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/cincinnatirighttolife.org\/?p=30828"},"modified":"2024-04-08T16:19:50","modified_gmt":"2024-04-08T16:19:50","slug":"after-abortion-attempts-two-women-now-bound-by-child","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cincinnatirighttolife.org\/after-abortion-attempts-two-women-now-bound-by-child\/","title":{"rendered":"When her abortion plan failed, another woman’s prayers were answered"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

After abortion attempts, two women now bound by child<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

By Amber Ferguson, originally published April 6, 2024, The Washington Post<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

HOUSTON \u2014 It had been nearly a year since Evelyn had seen Olivia in person, and she had grown nervous about a planned reunion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When she finally arrived at the three-story townhouse where a party for the baby she placed for adoption was being held, she was greeted by Carolyn Whiteman, the 44-year-old woman Evelyn had chosen to raise her child. Whiteman held bright-eyed Olivia in the doorway.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI can\u2019t believe she\u2019s gotten so big. She\u2019s so cute,\u201d Evelyn, 25, said, beaming with tears in her eyes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For hours, Evelyn\u2019s and Whiteman\u2019s families marveled at Olivia\u2019s eight teeth and how she crawled and grabbed their pant legs to pull herself up on her feet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIt\u2019s so crazy being here and looking at Olivia,\u201d Evelyn\u2019s dad told Whiteman. \u201cShe crawls just the way Evelyn did when she was a baby.\u201d His gaze locked on the infant as her tiny toes gripped the hardwood floors.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But Evelyn\u2019s dad, a retired military veteran, resisted the urge to hold the infant, rebuffing Evelyn\u2019s encouragement until the end of the party. He was confident in his daughter\u2019s choice but didn\u2019t want to become attached to a grandchild he couldn\u2019t help raise.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A year earlier, Evelyn had been consumed by guilt, depression and hopelessness, she recalled in months of interviews. Her world had shattered when two lines appeared on a home pregnancy test.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She lied and hid the pregnancy from her parents for 34 weeks and traveled to two states to try to end it. She detached herself from the baby growing inside her, ignoring the flutters of movement in her expanding stomach.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Her repeated attempts to have an abortion were thwarted by Texas\u2019s six-week ban and a pregnancy clock that worked against her. She and her immediate family spoke to The Washington Post on the condition that their last name would be withheld to protect her privacy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now, here she was with a woman she barely knew, visiting the child she birthed despite all of her plans.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The women, Evelyn and Whiteman, couldn\u2019t be more different.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Evelyn, half-Native American and half-Black, with curly, sandy brown hair, felt internally broken as the weight of unmet expectations and the fear of the unknown seemed to overtake her when she accidentally became pregnant. While Evelyn struggled academically, Whiteman had degrees, a community of friends, and a supportive, boisterous Grenadian family. But after struggling to find a Black sperm donor, she would stand in the entryway of the empty guest bedroom in her newly constructed home, praying and longing for a baby.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now Evelyn and Whiteman were bound together, by a child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Evelyn spent most of 2022 terrified.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After graduating from high school, she enrolled in a San Antonio community college. But she says she wasn\u2019t motivated, sometimes skipping classes and hanging out with people she knew weren\u2019t the best for her. By January of that year, she was on academic dismissal \u2014 for the third time \u2014 after her grade-point average dropped below 2.0. This time, she would have to sit out an entire academic year.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Evelyn began talking to a guy she met on social media. They dated for a few weeks and had casual sex.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A few weeks later, in February, the air in her body seemed to disappear as she stared at the positive pregnancy test on her bathroom counter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A single thought swirled through her head: I can\u2019t have a child. I can\u2019t have a child. I can\u2019t have a child.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Her relationship, brief and tumultuous, went downhill swiftly and ended after she told him about the pregnancy. She immediately began making plans to have an abortion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She decided not to tell her parents. Her mom (a nurse) and her dad (a former pilot) were retired military veterans who had struggled to conceive. They were in their mid-40s when they adopted Evelyn at 3 weeks old.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Although Evelyn had always felt close to them, she was petrified to tell them about the pregnancy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMy parents are in their early 70s. I didn\u2019t have a job or any money. I didn\u2019t want to put it on them to raise the baby,\u201d Evelyn remembers thinking. She felt ashamed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A friend, Bianca Hernandez, accompanied her to Alamo Women\u2019s Reproductive Services, in San Antonio three days after the positive pregnancy test. Around 8 a.m., Hernandez says she watched Evelyn walk past screaming protesters holding antiabortion signs and into the clinic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Evelyn knew about the new law. A few months before she entered the clinic, Texas had become the first state in history to ban abortions beyond six weeks of pregnancy. It was one of the most restrictive abortion laws to take effect in the United States in nearly 50 years.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Abortion clinics were bombarded with calls<\/a> from women rushing to get appointments to terminate their pregnancies. Evelyn was one of them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When it was her turn, she reclined on the exam table and crossed her fingers, hoping she wasn\u2019t too far along.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYou\u2019re six weeks and four days pregnant,\u201d she recalls the doctors saying.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cSo it\u2019s too late?\u201d she asked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes, she was told.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The clinic\u2019s staff advised her to go to Oklahoma before that state adopted an abortion ban, too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Evelyn texted Hernandez, who was waiting outside: \u201cIt\u2019s not good.\u201d Back in the car, she started to weep. \u201cI have to go to Oklahoma,\u201d Hernandez remembers her saying.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It was time to tell her parents, Hernandez told her. Evelyn refused.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Her appointment at Tulsa Women\u2019s Reproductive Services wasn\u2019t until mid-April \u2014 nearly four weeks later. She didn\u2019t want to make the six-hour journey alone, so she called her birth mother, Tamela, who lived near the Oklahoma border.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Her birth mother was a teenager when she became pregnant with Evelyn. With the encouragement of her adoptive mom, Evelyn had found her on Facebook in 2016. They stayed in touch. Evelyn hoped she would be able to understand her predicament.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tamela says she was surprised by Evelyn\u2019s call but immediately understood her fear. \u201cYou don\u2019t think it\u2019s going to happen to you, that you\u2019re going to get pregnant so young. And it\u2019s scary. It\u2019s very scary because it happened to me,\u201d Tamela remembers thinking.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During the hours-long car ride to Oklahoma, Evelyn says they sat mostly silent while listening to music. Evelyn thanked her birth mother for accompanying her and keeping the secret from her adoptive parents. She remembers Tamela telling her that she was making a good decision and that ending the pregnancy would be best for her future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They checked into a DoubleTree hotel, and Evelyn spotted the clinic through the window.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Early the next morning Tamela watched as Evelyn maneuvered past yelling antiabortion protesters and entered the clinic. At the time, the Tulsa clinic\u2019s caseload had tripled to 500 cases per month, says Andrea Gallegos, the executive administrator at the Texas and Oklahoma clinics Evelyn went to. Most of the patients were from Texas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The clinic\u2019s doctor estimated that she was nine, possibly 10 weeks along and handed her a prescription for mifepristone, Evelyn says. She should dissolve the pills under her tongue to start a medication abortion, according to the prescription she received from the clinic. She was told to take the remaining four pills, misoprostol, \u201corally\u201d at home within 48 hours.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Back in the car, Tamela says Evelyn showed her the paperwork from the clinic and appeared relieved and happy. \u201cThey made me feel welcomed and were really supportive in there,\u201d Evelyn told her birth mother.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She didn\u2019t take the second dose until she returned to her home in San Antonio, nearly two days later. She wanted to be at home where she would have more privacy, Evelyn says. Her stomach had started to cramp. Then she saw the blood clots in the toilet. She bled for hours and had spotting for a couple of weeks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Confident it had worked, she says she didn\u2019t bother to make the follow-up doctor\u2019s appointment the clinic had strongly recommended.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

May and June passed. Evelyn started working as a fulfillment associate at Macy\u2019s. But she still hadn\u2019t gotten her menstrual cycle. She took another pregnancy test and was stunned when it came back positive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A family friend, Yvette, a registered nurse, says she arranged for Evelyn to get bloodwork done at a hospital. At the hospital, a midwife, Monica, also measured Evelyn\u2019s uterus and conducted an ultrasound. Both women spoke on the condition that their last names be withheld because they were not authorized to speak by their employer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Evelyn fainted when she saw that there was a heartbeat, and was in and out of consciousness for about five minutes, the midwife recalled in an interview. She was obviously in denial, Monica said. Perhaps it\u2019s time to consider adoption, the midwife told her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cNo, no, no, I can\u2019t go through with the pregnancy,\u201d Evelyn responded.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Evelyn says she didn\u2019t know the pills sometimes didn\u2019t work. It is a rare occurrence, but she later learned that 3 percent of medication abortions fail<\/a> when gestation reaches 70 days, or 10 weeks, according to the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists. The odds of failure increase if the patient waits longer than prescribed to take the second dose of the medication, several medical experts said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Oklahoma clinic has since closed, and Gallegos said she doesn\u2019t have access to Evelyn\u2019s medical records. Failure is uncommon, but the clinic advises all patients to make follow-up appointments and receive an ultrasound, she said. \u201cHave we had patients who have failed pills? Yes. Is it the norm? No,\u201d Gallegos told The Post. \u201cWe would try to schedule every patient to come back for a follow-up and ultrasound to make sure that everything was completed. Sometimes patients made it to those appointments, sometimes they didn\u2019t.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Desperate, Evelyn found a website, Aid Access, that shipped abortion medication across the country. After speaking with a doctor by phone and paying $150, she waited for pills that were being mailed from India.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Evelyn had told the doctor she wasn\u2019t sure the date of her last period. At the time, Aid Access prescribed medication abortion pills for patients who were up to 10 weeks pregnant, taking into account the two-week shipping time. \u201cAid Access trusts women to tell the truth about their situation,\u201d Rebecca Gomperts, the company\u2019s director, told The Post in a statement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It may already have been too late for the medication to be effective, Evelyn says she told herself. But she was convinced that she didn\u2019t have any other choice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the pills arrived, she ripped open the package and read the instructions over and over. She said she wanted to do it right this time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For a couple of hours she had cramps but no bleeding. She emailed the company. They advised her to take the additional pills they sent, according to the email. Still, Evelyn says, nothing happened.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She was nervous, she wrote the company in another email reviewed by The Post. \u201cI\u2019ve been through this before and started bleeding within two hours,\u201d she told them of her previous experience with a medication abortion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the email exchange, the company offered to send more medication to a pharmacy near Evelyn, but she remembered the warning of Yvette, the registered nurse: At this stage, nearly five months into her pregnancy, an abortion was becoming risky to her health. She refused the offer of more medication.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Evelyn spent August and September in an emotional haze, pretending that life was normal around the house she shared with her parents but researching states that offered abortions later in pregnancy. She was still hanging out with friends, most of whom were oblivious to her pregnancy. During family dinners, she and her parents would chat about the latest movies, and they would stress the importance of her returning to school.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She found a clinic in Albuquerque that offered second-trimester abortions. She was past the halfway point in her pregnancy and approaching the third trimester, but she still had time, Evelyn told herself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The clinic staff warned about the health risks of having a surgical abortion so late in her pregnancy but helped connect her to two abortionorganizations that covered the cost of her plane ticket, hotel, food and the $12,000 procedure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThere are no circumstances surrounding your pregnancy that will make you more or less deserving of assistance,\u201d the New Mexico Religious Coalition for Reproductive Choice wrote Evelyn in an email confirming she was approved for assistance. The organization doesn\u2019t keep abortion seekers\u2019 information, said Janeth Orozco, spokeswoman for the nonprofit group. Evelyn\u2019s travel documents to New Mexico list the coalition as the payee.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At the beginning of October 2022, Evelyn told her parents she was going to visit a friend across town but instead boarded a plane to Albuquerque. She called the midwife who had conducted her ultrasound while waiting to take off. Evelyn needed her bloodwork and lab results. She sounded desperate, the midwife says.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The next morning, Evelyn found herself staring up at fluorescent light panels. A nurse moved the curved ultrasound wand across her belly and tickled the long dark line that had emerged in the center of her stomach as the baby grew.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI\u2019m so sorry,\u201d Evelyn remembers the nurse telling her, looking at the screen. \u201cYou are too far along, 32 weeks pregnant,\u201d she said, pausing before adding, \u201cWe can\u2019t help you.\u201d The clinic\u2019s doctors aren\u2019t trained to perform abortions after 24 weeks, according to Southwestern Women\u2019s Options.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Evelyn burst into tears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Suddenly out of options for ending the pregnancy, Evelyn began to consider a future that had once seemed impossible. She would be giving birth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Her parents were already upset she had been kicked out of school. The weight of disappointing them further and having them find out she had unprotected sex was something she had not wanted to face.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She hadn\u2019t seriously considered adoption until now, despite being adopted herself. But now that seemed to be the only option.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Evelyn says she knew adoption could be positive. Her parents had given her an ideal childhood. There were trips to Argentina and France. She played soccer and basketball before falling in love with volleyball.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She was grateful for her family but sometimes had questions. What was her birth mother like? Did she have any biological siblings?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When she returned home to San Antonio, she called the Gladney Center for Adoption, in Fort Worth, the agency her parents had used.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After concealing her growing belly from her parents for months, it was time to stop lying. She was starting to show.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One day, before heading to the movies for a family outing, she asked her mother to join her in her bedroom. By the time she had the courage to tell her mother, Evelyn was more than seven months pregnant. The words spilled out through tears \u2014 the abortion attempt, her fear.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Her mom, she learned, had been suspicious of the big robe she had been wearing around the house. But Evelyn was still too terrified to tell her father about her pregnancy. So her mother did.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

His head dropped in disbelief, Evelyn\u2019s mom recalled. \u201cGo talk to her. She needs you,\u201d she told him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Her dad gave Evelyn a long hug in the kitchen. He was shocked, disappointed and hurt. She should have come to them sooner for help, he told her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Her parents assured her they would support any decision she made, including placing the baby up for adoption.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Two weeks later, on Nov. 10, her mom began timing Evelyn\u2019s contractions. Evelyn had initially mistaken the throbbing for gallbladder pain. She quickly packed a hospital bag. Six hours later, she gave birth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Two hours east, in Houston, Carolyn Whiteman, a human resources executive for a chemical company, had been struggling with becoming a mother for years.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In 2020, she had tested positive for BRCA2, a hereditary gene that puts her at increased risk of developing ovarian and breast cancer. Her OB\/GYN told her she would need to have her ovaries and uterus removed in her mid-40s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She had always seen herself as a career-oriented Black woman who should have been married with kids in her mid-30s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now she was out of time and couldn\u2019t wait any longer if she wanted to be a mom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At 41, Whiteman underwent two cycles of egg freezing, in 2021. She froze 24 eggs and felt \u201cpretty lucky.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For three months, she says she meticulously searched cryobank websites daily for at least an hour. She joined Facebook groups for women looking for donors. There, she read posts from other Black women expressing the same struggle: There were hardly any Black sperm donors<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A few months after Whiteman ended her sperm donor search, her younger sister, Anika, sent her an Essence magazine<\/a> article about a single woman who had adopted a baby at 49 after she too froze her eggs. Whiteman began researching private open domestic adoption<\/a>, an increasingly common choice for keeping birth parents involved in the child\u2019s life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whiteman met the income requirements and had good references. She confidently called two adoption agencies in early 2022 but was rejected because she wasn\u2019t married.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She was devastated but contacted three other adoption agencies. They couldn\u2019t help her either. They already had long waitlists and weren\u2019t accepting applications from new prospective parents, they told her. Another door is closed, Whiteman remembers thinking.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then a co-worker referred her to another agency, Gladney, which accepted her application. There was a need for more Black adoptive parents and it would make her an attractive applicant to many birth parents, she was told. It was expensive \u2014 $50,000 \u2014 and took months as she went through various interviews and trainings. But she finally had hope.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Her profile went live on the agency\u2019s website in October 2022. \u201cI will ensure you always hold an honored place in your child\u2019s life,\u201d Whiteman wrote in her letter to prospective parents. She prepared for a lengthy wait that she was told could last two years.<\/p>\n\n\n

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Olivia at the hospital (Courtesy of Evelyn) (click on image above to view video)<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Evelyn had not had any prenatal care and didn\u2019t know the gender of her baby until she delivered. But the baby, a girl, was healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It felt like whiplash. She had tried for months not to have the child she was silently cradling. And she says she quickly discovered she was in love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She took selfie videos, with playful social media filters, holding her daughter. Her photo albumquickly filled with videos of Evelyn bottle-feeding, learning to swaddle and admiring the baby\u2019s fussy sounds.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She named her Kaya, the same name Evelyn had been given at birth \u2014 before she was adopted.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She was becoming attached but knew the decision she wanted to make.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The next day, Evelyn chose five prospective families to interview. But after reading Whiteman\u2019s profile four or five times, she gravitated toward the woman\u2019s warmth. Evelyn admired all of the pictures of Whiteman\u2019s family and friends and how she talked about traveling, working out and spoiling her goddaughters. To Evelyn, she seemed like someone who was \u201cready to give a child everything.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When they met over Zoom, the women say they talked of spirituality, faith and the importance of family time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whiteman mentioned that she was on the local board of Girls Inc., a nonprofit that encourages young girls to become leaders. Evelyn smiled. \u201cI was part of Girls Inc. when I was younger,\u201d she told Whiteman.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eight hours later, Whiteman received a call from the adoption agency.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She was about to become a mom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She hung up, went online and signed up for an infant CPR class scheduled for 8 a.m. the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The next 10 days were chaotic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whiteman hired a nanny and started shopping. She tested strollers and bought a formula maker.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Evelyn and her mom picked out a fluffy, light-pink dress from a children\u2019s store for the baby to wear on adoption day. They went to a craft store and bought soft fabric with rainbows on it. Evelyn knit the fabric into a baby blanket.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The night before Evelyn was to turn her baby over, on Nov. 29, 2022, the women traveled to Fort Worth and met in person for the first time over a chicken quesadilla dinner. Whiteman had grown nervous that Evelyn would change her mind but learned she had already signed the relinquishment papers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The soon-to-be mom told Evelyn she had always loved the name Olivia.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIn honor of you, I want to keep the name that you had for her. So I will name her Olivia Kaya-Simone,\u201d Whiteman told her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Evelyn hadn\u2019t taken Olivia home when she left the hospital, worried it would be too hard to parent her while the adoption was finalized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the moments before officially handing Olivia over to Whiteman, Evelyn sat alone with Olivia in a Gladney office and whispered: \u201cI love you, I love you, I love you.\u201d She kissed Olivia\u2019s forehead and promised she would have a great life with Whiteman.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eventually, when she was ready, Evelyn walked into a room as her parents followed her. Nearly all of Whiteman\u2019s family was there recording the moment and taking pictures. Face red with tears, Evelyn handed her child to her new mom. The two women sat and held hands for two hours.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Their case workers allowed them some time alone. Before they left, Evelyn says she wanted to explain to Whiteman how she had become pregnant and tell her about her abortion attempts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI really hope you won\u2019t judge me,\u201d she told her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the weeks after the adoption, Evelyn says she barely left home. She cried every day and slept with Olivia\u2019s hospital clothes next to her for comfort. Her mother held her and said it would be okay.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She was sad but confident about her decisions, including her failed abortion attempts. A therapist helped her make peace with the guilt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Olivia was in a good place, and Evelyn would get to watch her grow up, her therapist assured her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As she grappled with her feelings, she watched the abortion landscape that had tripped up her decision to end her pregnancy continue to tighten. Twenty states had enacted laws limiting abortion access. The clinic in San Antonio she initially went to for an abortion closed, and the Oklahoma clinic that gave her medication abortion pills relocated to Illinois.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Other women should have the same choices she had, Evelyn remembers thinking, including an abortion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Slowly, Evelyn\u2019s fog began to lift. In January 2023, her academic dismissal period ended, and she enrolled in classes at a community college. To return, she was required to submit a letter to the dean and wrote about her unplanned pregnancy and how much restarting her education meant to her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She attended every lecture, went to tutoring and turned in her assignments on time. She passed all of her classes and, for the first time, earned straight A\u2019s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI\u2019m going to use everything I went through to motivate me,\u201d Evelyn remembers telling her mom. \u201cI want Olivia to grow up and be proud of me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the summer, she applied to a four-year historically Black college near Houston. \u201cSo pleased to hear you are back on track to continue your higher education,\u201d the acceptance letter said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eleven months after giving birth, Evelyn poured buttermilk pancake mix onto a hot pan, a late breakfast for herself and her new roommate before class. She had moved into an off-campus apartment, her first time living away from her parents, and was basking in life as a college student.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She goes to the gym four days per week, attends a midweek Bible study meeting on campus and is looking for a criminal justice internship. She goes out with her friends on the weekends and hopes to try out for the club volleyball team next year.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But she and her roommate were still getting to know each other, and Evelyn hadn\u2019t told her about her pregnancy yet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Instead, her roommate watched as Evelyn giggled in excitement about a birthday party planned for a new friend on campus the next night. She reviewed the contents of her overstuffed closet, looking for an outfit and pulling out different crop top options.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI\u2019m trying to shop my closet. I don\u2019t want to spend money on a new outfit,\u201d Evelyn told her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the evidence of Olivia is everywhere. Evelyn sleeps with a gray 6-pound, 11-ounce teddy bear \u2014 Olivia\u2019s birth weight \u2014 that her Gladney caseworker gave her after she relinquished custody.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the morning, she fluffs her hair and swipes through videos of Olivia on her phone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She watches clips of the 1-year-old sitting in a highchair and stuffing cereal into her mouth. In another, Olivia is having her ears pierced.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Receiving Whiteman\u2019s photos and videos of Olivia over the months had comforted Evelyn, but seeing her for the first time in a year, holding her, would be different.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She had longed for this planned reunion for months \u2014 circling the date in her spiral planner, buying a small gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whiteman had bought matching mommy-and-daughter multi-print dresses for herself and Olivia. She asked Evelyn to wear a bright-orange top so that they would all coordinate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On a sunny fall afternoon, Evelyn drove 45 minutes to the townhouse where Whiteman had said they would reunite. Her parents traveled two hours to join her. Evelyn again laid eyes on the baby she had given birth to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

about the baby\u2019s love of Elmo, Ms. Rachel videos on YouTube and the more than 90 bows she had collected to coordinate with her outfits. \u201cBows are the new barrettes,\u201d Whiteman joked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While sitting next to Whiteman on the couch, Evelyn rolled up the left pant leg of her skinny jeans and showed her a small tattoo on her ankle \u2014 a heart inside a triangle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThe three points represent the birth mother, the adoptive mother and baby,\u201d Evelyn said. \u201cThe heart represents the love they all share.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It was a tattoo she had gotten years earlier to represent her own adoption, but it had taken on new meaning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whiteman watched as Evelyn studied Olivia\u2019s every feature, took Snapchat pictures, and bounced her up and down in a corner of the living room.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThe more people who love Olivia, the better,\u201d Whiteman said as she watched the two play.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As the sun began to set, Evelyn and her parents prepared to leave. She caressed Olivia\u2019s soft curls and gently kissed her on the forehead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She left a children\u2019s book written by Gabrielle Union and Dwyane Wade on the dining room table. On the inside cover, she wrote: \u201cOlivia, With this book, I hope you will grow to love reading. I love you forever! \u2014 Evelyn.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Leaving the reunion, Evelyn felt a flush of calm. Olivia was happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the car ride home, she received a text from Whiteman. It contained details about a garden brunch. Evelyn and her parents were invited to Olivia\u2019s first birthday party the next month, where they would play Olivia Trivia.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There was no doubt, Evelyn knew. She would be there.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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